Lessons Learned From Rejection – What Rejections Taught Me?
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Did you know? Rejection is the best teacher. You are going to find out lessons learned from rejection. You’ll get a clear understand of what rejections taught me and how I change my thinking pattern.
Most people, including me, fear to reject. But when we spend our day, we all fail at least one time. When we rejected, Most of the time, we get angry or sad, and we never try that again because we fear to reject again.
But there have lessons learned from rejection, and those lessons help you to build your confidence and get more experience to be the better version of yourself. That means rejection is a good thing.
So I will share why rejection good and what rejections taught me?
Lessons Learned From Rejection
What Rejections Taught Me when I Failed the Interview?
I will share one of my biggest rejections. This happened in my 20s. At that time I learn to program languages to be a software engineer. So, as usual, I have to face interviews to become a trainee web developer.
The funny thing is I already rejected two times before I face this Interview. Anyway, I have to face three parts of this Interview to pass it and get the job. So it held for three days.
On the first day, I go to that company for my first Interview. So there were two interview board members.
One member asked me simple questions like,
- How much you want as your basic salary?
- Do you have previous experience with a real client?
- How many projects did you complete?
Those questions are so simple. So I felt like winning the world. After a few days, they called me to the second Interview.
That Interview is a one-hour coding interview. Basically, I have to build a small CMS (content management system) application. For me, it’s like a piece of cake.
I made grate applications according to their requirements within one hour. So I felt the same as my first day.
After 2-3 days, they call me for the third Interview. And they gave me the time to face that Interview. So I went there. At that time, my confidence level boost to 100%.
Because I knew I pass that two interviews, and those interviews were so easy. So I went to a room, and there were 8-10 judge board members on a big table. At first, I was confused.
They told me to sit on a chair. Then start to ask an advanced question. I answer some questions. But I didn’t have an answer to the most questions.
After 10-15 minutes, they told me.
We will inform you within a few days
When I leave that place, I felt like a loser, and I was mad at them, and I tell myself to never go to Interviews.
Yes. As you think, they never call me again.
I Rejected
So this is one of a bad rejection in my life. At that time, I thought it as my failure. But now I see it as a big life lesson because, after that Interview, I apply for my 4th Interview.
In that Interview, I passed and became a trainee web developer. I prepared for my 4th Interview because of my previews rejection.
I failed a lot of times in my life. I get rejected by girls, and I fail a lot of exams.
I failed a lot of times in my life. I get rejected by girls, and I fail a lot of exams. Also, I fail to complete my Software Engineering degree. Not only that, but I also lose a lot of money by investing in bitcoin.
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Lessons Learned From Rejection
It doesn’t matter what your country, skin color, or social state. You already rejected the same as I rejected. But that situation and experience may be different.
Rejection and failure are painful and hard to accept. Also, it hurt every single time when we fail. So it’s totally fine to give a few hours or a few days to pass this bad feeling.
But you have to go back to normal life as soon as possible, and you must ask this question from yourself.
What can I do different not to fail next time when I have to face a situation like this and get a better result?
If you ask what rejections taught me? The above question is the answer. It is a powerful and best way to build confidence and face any kind of obstacles in your life.
As an example, if your partner broke up with you and you try to send a lot of texts to get her back, or you keep trying to contact her. If you become annoying to your partner, you will never get her back.
If next time this same situation happens, you can stay without trying to contact her and stop texting and try to get over from the breakup.
So you have to learn the lessons from your failures and rejections. Next time you fail, you can stay confident because you already face this rejection. So that is not a big deal.
Conclusion of Lessons Learned From Rejection
In our lifetime, we have to reject again and again. Try to apply this method when you fail. When you do this regularly, you will become grates version of yourself.
Not only that, but you will also have a lot of lessons learned from rejection. Those lessons will help you to face that situation better than before.
So now you know what rejections taught me. This is what I have today. Let me know if you have any kind of question by putting a comment below.
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With rejection, it can be difficult to overcome it as an obstacle. As you have stated here, Rejection can be good and a way to build confidence. It is of course, up to the individual how they handle rejection. It is good to have articles like this to read to show that people (such as yourself) can overcome rejection and turn it into motivation.
Thanks for sharing your story so others can relate and hopefully use rejection in a good way.
Hi! I think you’re right. Instead of stewing over the rejection, you just need to move on. I understand sometimes it takes a little time to get over things, but know that you can keep trying, maybe just a different way. Don’t look at these things as failures, look at them at learning experiences. Thanks for the nice article. I know there is a lot of people out there that need to hear advice like this.
Most welcome & thank you for reding!
Rejection is something, that can destroy your confidence,and ruin your chances, of making a success, the next time,that you have, an important project to do.
However you can get the victory, over the situation, by changing your attitude, towards the problem,and by changing the ways, that you deal with it.
We can rebuild our confidence,by knowing that we can beat the problem,by applying the tried and true problem solving methods that we can learn,even if we have been rejected by the same people several times.
In my profession of building, there is usually a more experienced person, that we can go to, who will be able to show us, a tried and true method, that we did not know about, that will give us the answer to our dilemma.
This is probably one of the hardest pills to swallow in life, but you are absolutely right. When we are first rejected, there is a huge abundance of shame and even guilt for not doing/saying something differently. We have all felt it.
I have found it is so important to accept that I am going to be upset for a while, but in the long run, I can either keep whining and pouting, or I can learn from the experience. The answer to that will set us apart from those who succeed and those who continue to fail.
Thanks for reading & really appreciate your comment!
I’ve read somewhere that you have to fail a few times before you succeed, and that failure is one of the steps on the way to success. The reason is because when we fail, we have to try to learn how to avoid such a situation again.
Fear of rejection is a hard one, but we can’t let that fear stop our action. The only way to reach success is to act. Thus, we must find a way to get past the fear of rejection and keep trying. Each time we conquer that fear and continue, we will find we are stronger. The next rejection may be a bit easier to handle. Eventually we overcome the barriers and succeed.