Stop Being Shy Around People – Easy 3 Tips

We all have shyness. If you are an introvert person like me, shyness is the best enemy. I’m struggling with social anxiety. When I talk with someone, I try to skip from speaking less. Sometimes we miss the best and unforgettable moment because of shyness. So we have to face our shyness and live the life we want to live. Here I will share three tips to stop being shy around people.

Extend Your Comfort Zonecomfort zone

Expand the comfort zone by doing things you never do or do something you are not comfortable in your life. Expand your comfort zone is hard to do. When you try to do an uncomfortable thing for the first time, your mind will make a lot of excuses.

Also, shyness will play a significant role when you do uncomfortable things. When you do some unpleasant stuff again and again regularly, that will be comfortable. So you will not shy to do that thing.

When you are comfortable with something, which means you extend your comfort zone. So try to expand your comfort zone more and more. This practical, and you will be able to stay without shyness in any situation.

If you don’t have an idea about where to start, the best way is to find small things to do. When you do those things, you will not get uncomfortable. You will able to handle the situation without being embarrassing.

Things like,

  • Talk with strange people
  • Ask location from girls
  • Visit new places and get a picture of that paces

Those are the natural step to do without being embarrassing. When I try to extend my comfort zone, those things I did for my first time.

Read Understand Your Mind Power And Do Not Overthink article to find more about overthinking.

Stay Present Moment


Another most significant issue for shyness is overthinking. Most people do not stay present moment when they go to the social situation. Most of the time, they try to guess and thinks about “what other people think about them”. So they will try to find their insecurities. And it will make them shy all the time.

If you have this kind of behavior, you have to stop overthinking and stop think about some bad experiences that happened in the past. When you get some negative feeling like

  • When I talk with her.
  • She will ignore me.
  • If I sit here, they will go away.

Those are the most common negative feelings.

You have to come back to the present moment by distracting those negative feelings. The easy way is when you overthink something, try to think another thing, or try to talk with someone who stays alone.

Also, you can use 5 seconds rule. When you overthink before approaching a girl or pass a group of people count 5 to 0 and do that thing without a second guess.

Maybe you are shy because of your insecurities like your hair, clothes, or some issue with you.

In that situation, you have to let go of that insecurity. Because you can’t fix it in social cases, only you can do think about it and ruin your whole time. So at that moment, you have to let that go.

If that insecurity can fix, you have to do what you can to fix it. If your hair and beard are too long and ugly, you can go to the salon and change your hairstyle.

If you got bald, you can’t fix it quickly, so you have to let it go. We all have insecurities, so we have to handle that insecurity,

Be More Socialize

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If you are an introvert person, you have a lot of shyness. So you have to be more socialize. If you skip social situations or your friends, you have to change it and face those situations. Also, try to keep eye contact with peoples. Maintaining eye contact is helped me to stop being shy around people.

When you keep your eye contact, most of the time, they watch away. When they do it, you will be able to build confidence. The easy way is while you walk or go outside, try to watch people’s faces and smile with them. When you do this, some people will smile back, and some people will not laugh at you.

When you smile and keep eye contact, your fear will go away. And you will able to watch the face of people around you. When you do this consistently, you will not be shy.

Keep eye contact is the same as expand your comfort zone. Try this for one week; you will see a clear difference.

You can follow these three tips to stop being shy around people. I hope you get useful information. Thank you for reading!

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11 thoughts on “Stop Being Shy Around People – Easy 3 Tips

  • November 15, 2019 at 10:20 am

    Hi, nice post! I’m an introvert and I used to be super shy around new people so I can relate to this post very well, I’m still shy to new people now but it’s alot better than before. Overthinking was a big issue for me, I practised the Cognitive behavioural therapy(CBT) method and it has helped a lot. 

  • November 15, 2019 at 10:25 am

    Hi Gihan,

    Shyness is the biggest challenge we all have. Even successful people would have struggled with this in the early stages of their life. Coming out of your comfort zone is very important. Once I read…

    You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone, change begins at the end of your comfort zone.- Roy T. Bennett

    Overthinking is another big problem with myself and you have provided great advice here. You have given me plenty to think about here. You have provided solution to this problem in this helpful article and I got great insights. To be honest I need to work on all the 3 things.  

    • November 15, 2019 at 10:51 am

      Hey Paul, Thank you for reading and your comment.

  • November 15, 2019 at 10:26 am

    Hey, This a a very cute site with lots of great tips about how to lose your shyness and go out there and get what you deserve and desire. I love the articles and the fun way they are written.I was enjoying the read a lot and it made me laugh and smile a lot while taking valuable tips from it for my self! Great place to check if you want to boost your confidence;)

    • November 15, 2019 at 10:52 am

      Thank you for reading and your comment.

  • November 15, 2019 at 10:30 am

    Hello Gihan!

    Your article directly addresses some problems I have too. Shyness, social anxiety, the habit of running away from people & searching for ways to avoid them, and also becoming agitated when I see certain people. I am almost 30 years old as a male and never had a true relationship with a girl or a woman by now, and I am also thinking it may already be too late for me to normally approach other people – and as a consequence I feel “safer” (quotes intended) by continuing to avoid social situations. The time that was already spent as a “society outsider” can do very much damage to our personalities and the running away from others tends to become a real “psychological shelter” over the time since the fear towards others aka social anxiety becomes deeper. And another important consequence is that I am afraid of the future (like 2020), too.

    I also recognize in myself other signs that you exposed in the article, like introversion, overthinking about the past and being afraid of rejection (insecurity included). And when other people notice this insecurity and react badly… that becomes another “awkward event of the past” to think of, This kind of life is like a vicious circle, making us ask ourselves where the exit is.

    Nonetheless, obviously I am less shy when it is about writing on the Internet, otherwise you could not see this comment :). I still have things to do in my life, and I should watch for them, doing little steps outside my old comfort zone.

    Wish you good luck!


  • November 15, 2019 at 10:35 am

    Hello Gihan Akalanka. Thanks for sharing these three easy tips to stop being shy around people. Being shy is not a good thing. It has so many disadvantages like missing good opportunities, lack of confidence etc.

    I like the eye contact thing you talked about in one of the tips which is to be more socialised. I have been trying it and it’s working for me. I’m developing some confidence.

  • November 15, 2019 at 10:39 am

    I was a very shy boy. Back in those days, I find it difficult to communicate with people, I feel very uncomfortable around people. I applied most of these tips back then and I saw some huge differences.

    One of the things that helped me was that I joined the choir group in my fellowship in school. With time I was able to take come lead, I faced the crowd. This really helped me a lot.

    Joining a social group is one of the effective ways to stop being shy.

  • November 15, 2019 at 10:49 am


    Very interesting about your article

    I have been dealing with sales for 10 years now and I come in contact with many people on a daily basis.

    At the beginning of my career I was very impatient to deal directly with the people I would work with.

    I felt very uncomfortable and I was shy about it again and again with the passage of time but I managed to overcome it and started feeling very comfortable and moving on.

    The 5-second rule you mentioned I did and it worked

    Another example that I do in my work to take care of and chase away the noise is the eyes and the smile that most of the time they pay attention to.

    The smile and the handshake play a very important role in the first contact with an unknown

    Many thanks for your interesting article.Many thanks for your interesting article.

    • November 15, 2019 at 11:32 am

      most welcome and thank you for reading!


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